hmmm Ally yeh koi aise be kamyaft amal nai jho kessi k saath nai hosakta, mere saath hosakta hain buhut se log k saath hosakta hai es mei itna amazed hune ki kiya baat hain,if u dnt have strong belief in ur Allah then u do this otherwise no need of it.........jab woh koi aazmaish dalta hai8 tu us ko berdasht kerny ki quwat b daita hai8 .......................so pehly se tyari kerney wali baat munasib nhee... bus us se aazmaisg na dlaney ki dua kero ....tayari ko choro[DOUBLEPOST=1353924334][/DOUBLEPOST]
sabah ji ap k sath tu aisa kcuh nhee ho raha na ??? jis k sath hoga khud hee pooch laiga kisi se kia kerna hai .....................
Dear Fahad buhut achi baate ki apnay bhale he mere topic se thora different hain but jho baate bayan kiye they are worthwhile thank you[DOUBLEPOST=1353933842][/DOUBLEPOST]aam tor per yehi kaha jata hai ke shadi us se nhi karo jisko aap pasand karte ho balke shadi us se karo jo apko pasand karta ho lekin agar ghor kya jai yeh dono baaten barabar ka wazan rakhti hain
kyunke agar hum apni life uske sath guzarte hain jisko hum pasand nahi karte lekin woh hamen pasand karta hai to zahir hai woh hamari care hamara khayal b rakhta hai lekin return main hum usko kya dete hain?kuch b nahi kyunke hum usko like hi nhi krte
lekin hum agr apni life aise shaks ke sath guzarte hain jo hamen to pasnd nhi krta lekin hum usko boht pasand karte hain to zahir hai hum uska khayal b rakhte hain care b krte hain lekin return main woh hamen kya deta hai?kuch b nhi kyunke woh hamen like hi nhi krta
lekin hum agr yeh sochte hain ke life uske sath guzarni chahiye jo hamen like karta ho take uska dil na toote or waqt ke sath hum uski muhabbat ko recognized kr saken or phir return main usko bhi wohi muhabbat de saken jo muhabbat woh hamen deta hai ya jis muhabbat ka woh haqdar banta hai
to yehi baat phir is situation main b apply hoti hai jab hum apni life us shaks ke sath guzarte hain jo hamen pasand nahi karta balke hum usko pasand karte hain ab chonke hum usse pasand krte hain to zahir hai uske sath life guzarne per or uski care krne pr or us se muhabbat krne ki surat main return main uski tarf se muhabbat or woh care na milne pr dil hamara b toote ga or uske sath life guzarne ki surat main waqt ke sath woh bhi hamari muhabbat recognized kr sakta hai or phir return main woh b hamen woh muhabbat de sakta hai jitni muhabbat hum us se kr rhe hote hain ya jitni muhabbat ke hum haqdar hote hain
to meri nazr main life guzarne ke lye behtreen sathi woh hota hai jisko aap khud b boht pasnd krte ho or jo khud bhi apko boht pasand karta ho is tarha muamla b barabar rehta hai muhabbat ki transection b brabar rehti hai ek dusre ki care b barabar ki jati hai kisi ek ka dil b nhi tott'ta kisi ek ke dil main koi shikayat b nhi rehti or zindagi hansi khushi guzarti rehti hai
well yeh bhi asan nai hain but kio k aapko achi umeed hain then surely Allah kuch behter socha hoga and maybe you are able to manage you relation with her in sha Allahwell friends i would like to tell u ..
am goimg to marry a person whom i don't love ...
but now its depends on me that how i will face this situaition...
so mery khayal sa sub sa mushkil situation yehi hoti hai k ap aik aesay person k 7 whole life spend kro jis ko ap na hi pasand krty ho na hi love na hi koi aur feelings houn us person k liya...
but humesha achay ki umeed krni chaheya....
so mai b achay i umeed kr k apni life start krun ge
so pray for me friends
MashAllah yaha pe ek se ek badiya replies mel rahe,walaikum assalam
accha sawal hai zindagi me is marhale se hame kayi baar guzarna parta hai.
chund saal pahle maine ek proverb parha tha k " mushkil waqt me jo tumhe yaad aaye/ jise tum yaad karte ho samjho k wo tumse pyar karta hai.aur jise tum apni khushi k waqt yaad karte ho to samjho k tum us se pyar karte ho "
aur mai yahi samajhta hon k agar koi tumhe pyar karta hai to uske saath zindagi guzarna aasan hota hai banisbat uske jise aap pyar karte ho.yahi haal Allah aur uski maqlooq ka hai.aap aazma kar dekhein kabhi k jab kabhi aapko koi saqt mushkil pesh aaye to fauran hame Allah aur isi tarha aapke apne qareebi rishte jaise mama/abbu yaad aate hain.aur jab kabhi aapko koi khuhsi haasil ho to aapko apne dost rishtedaar etc.yaad aajate hain.
shayed k aapko jawab mil gaya ho.aur bhi baat waazeh chahiye to main apni agli post me kardunga inshaAllah
Oh I thought k aap boy ho sorry. and good luckSUMAMEEN and mai girl houn not boy
ye baat to ghalat hai k mere jawab k baad ab koi sawal ki gunjayesh nahi.gunjayesh hai kyunke har koi ek hi baat ko kayi tareeqe pesh karsakta hai.jiske zarye hame aur nayi baatein maloom hoti hain. waise shukriya pasand karne ka.MashAllah yaha pe ek se ek badiya replies mel rahe,
ab lug raha hain shayed yeh sawal ka jawab itne mushkil nai the jitna hume laga tha, but still joint discussion se buhut he ache views melte hain jesay hume ek sawal ka jawab ba asani melti hai and yahi intention lekar yeh thread laga so aapka jawab buhut he behtereen hai jeske agay koi sawal kerne ki gunjayesh nai shukran [DOUBLEPOST=1353934236][/DOUBLEPOST]
Oh I thought k aap boy ho sorry. and good luck
Wa'alaikumussalaam hummm goodAsalam-o-alaikum Wrwb!
I mostly finish my day, spending sometime alone in roof with the ultimate shades of sunset
and at the time many questions, many puzzles come across my mind regarding to different issue's wether it's about my own life or others they make me to think for a while.
So the same this question came in my mind when I was actually thinking about something.
very simple question Iam here to ask, yet the answer is not that simple.
I spent half an hour to figure out but I couldn't, now let me see what other explains, what is more difficult:
spending a life with the one who doesnt love or like you?
or
spending your life with the one, whom you dont love or like?
dont only vote but give a proper answer too.
Regards!
@hoorain @*SHOAIB* @Nelly @Fahadd @Ally @*Muslim* @Aara'af @Atif-adi @Bela @S_ChiragH
hmmmm@Aara'af Shayed aap mere baat ko nai samjhe, aap nay last line mei kaha tha:
"shayed k aapko jawab mil gaya ho.aur bhi baat waazeh chahiye to main apni agli post me kardunga inshaAllah"
so voh "sawal kerne ki gunjayesh nai" baat aapke post k lie kaha tha k aapnay itne clear tareekay se aur acha example paish kiya jeska aur wazahat kerne ki gunjayesh nai aur mai aapke baat samajh gaye.
baki subke k tu vaise bhi apnay points hote hain so kessi ek k points se thore na sub k jawab mel sakta hain.
objection your Honour.....[DOUBLEPOST=1353951160][/DOUBLEPOST]Dee mere reply ko quote nahi kea naaa.... koi baat nahi.... abhi mai ne reply he nahi kerna.... yeah lo mera romaal pakro zara... @Sabah[DOUBLEPOST=1353951334][/DOUBLEPOST]waalaikum assalam WRWB
aise kuch bhi kehna mushkil hota hay,,
but i think spending ur life with a person who don't like us is really torturing,hmari shakhsiyat khatam ho jaati hay,insan inferiority complex ka shikar ho jata hay it is really depressing,bohat zarf aur compromising nature chahiye us k liye which is really very rare.
On the other hand spending life with a person whom we dont like is also not easy but it is much better than the first option q k hum like nhi kar rhe ya hamari nature se us person ki nature match nhi ho rhi magar wo person hmari qadar karain ,respect dain to FOr sure aik time may sab manage ho jata hay but again is k liye bhi compromising and mature hona chahiye insan ko!
according to me 2nd option is easy!
Allah pak aap ke naseeb achey karey aur aap ke hubby ko aap ki dil mai ghar jaaney ki taufeeq de.... asali muhabbat woh he hoti jo shadi ke baad hoti.... Allah pak aap ko khusioun bhari zindagi aataa karey aameen....well friends i would like to tell u ..
am goimg to marry a person whom i don't love ...
but now its depends on me that how i will face this situaition...
so mery khayal sa sub sa mushkil situation yehi hoti hai k ap aik aesay person k 7 whole life spend kro jis ko ap na hi pasand krty ho na hi love na hi koi aur feelings houn us person k liya...
but humesha achay ki umeed krni chaheya....
so mai b achay i umeed kr k apni life start krun ge
so pray for me friends
abhi dekha aapka reply sorryI think jis ko hum pasand kertey hain us ke sath time acha guzarta chahey woh pasand naa bhi kerta hon per woh hamari pasand hai to us ko pasand kerne ki jo wajah hai woh he uss se jorey rakhey gi humey... aur jis ko hum pasand nahi kertey to us ko pasand naa kerney ki bhi koi wajah ho gi iss lea woh wajah humey laakh chahtey hoye bhi us ke aur mere dermiyan fasley qaim rakhe gi to iss rishtey mai just majboori he joorey rakhey gi....
so simple solution yeah hai keh ager hum kisi ko pasand kertey hain to us ke lea thori qurbani dena seekhen aur ager us ke lea khud ko change nahi ker saktey to iss ka matlab hum us ko utna pasand nahi kertey ke uss ko chorh naa saken....
hopefully aap ko answer mil gaya ho ga.... ager mil jaye to mujhe bhi bata dena mai ne kya samjhaya [DOUBLEPOST=1353923332][/DOUBLEPOST]
hahaha nahi samajh aa gaya mai to just leg pulling ker raha thaa...
nahi aaya naa samajh yeaaaah mai philosopher ban gaya hooooooooooooon...abhi dekha aapka reply sorry
haa jee aapke reply k bare mei kia kahu passand se shoro and passand pe khatam aur kuch dekhaye he nai derahe just qurbani se related kuch kaha aapnay jho kuch samajh nai aye kiya aap baat ko ghoomane ki koshish ker rahe the and mujhay confuse kerna chahte hu, ya pir mere abhi mind work nai ker raha eslie kuch samajh nai arahe
aap theek ho SHBnahi aaya naa samajh yeaaaah mai philosopher ban gaya hooooooooooooon...
Jab se ap ko meri baaten samajh mai aana band hoi hainaap theek ho SHB
yeh philosophy aapnay kub ki the
Objection overruledobjection your Honour.....[DOUBLEPOST=1353951160][/DOUBLEPOST]Dee mere reply ko quote nahi kea naaa.... koi baat nahi.... abhi mai ne reply he nahi kerna.... yeah lo mera romaal pakro zara... @Sabah[DOUBLEPOST=1353951334][/DOUBLEPOST]
Allah pak aap ke naseeb achey karey aur aap ke hubby ko aap ki dil mai ghar jaaney ki taufeeq de.... asali muhabbat woh he hoti jo shadi ke baad hoti.... Allah pak aap ko khusioun bhari zindagi aataa karey aameen....
n same dua for me also Sum Aameen.
aray woh ku ??? aap pyar se samjhaaien gee tu samajh jaaonga na ...... btw..aap samjhaa kahan rahi hein...aap tu dant rahi hein...!!hmmm Ally yeh koi aise be kamyaft amal nai jho kessi k saath nai hosakta, mere saath hosakta hain buhut se log k saath hosakta hai es mei itna amazed hune ki kiya baat hain,
mere yeh sawal serf ek basis pe nai k yeh masla husband ya wife, GF ya BF, fiance and dusre fiance k dermiyan hain love or hate ki baat serf ek ladka aur ladki k lie he kio use huti hain I dont know!
life mei buhut se chahne wale bhi hote aur na chahne wale bhi so koi ager aapko chahta hain means friend or family mei tu ofcourse na chahne wale bhi honge na.
chahne wale se related aapnay tu kafi post kiye honge and padhe bhi honge so why not to talk about na chahne wale so abhi yaha same chal raha hain. I know aapko samjhana sir dewaar pe marne jaisa hain but kia kare I can't keep quiet without replying you back.